Here Comes the App? Wedding Predicting App Gets Personal

This evening I came across an article on that was titled “New App That Will Predict the EXACT Date You’ll Get Married.” Shocked at the likelihood an app made with algorithms could even remotely predict the age you will get married to one and only love of your life, I clicked on the link and gave the article a read. What I found was an article about how upset a post-grad became after realizing that she had theoretically “1 year, 3 months and 36 days” until the day she should expect to get married. This fact can cause anyone to become increasingly stressed or anxious about the direction their life is taking and become a cause for unnecessary back life planning and what if?’s to arise.

An Example Marriage Graph

An Example Marriage Graph

Now that Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, this app will most likely increase in traffic based on the fact that if you are not celebrating the holiday with significant others, you are most likely envious of others or are overwhelmingly lonely and yearning for commitment. By measuring the median marriage age of your Facebook friends, the app can determine a probable marriage date for you based on your personal social circles. For some, this may be an exciting fact because they could be already in a relationship with their hopeful soulmate and were planning on marrying them anyway. But for those single individuals who are hoping their turn will come soon, this fact will give them an exact end date to when their life will catch up to those of their friends who have already been posting photos of engagements, weddings, and babies.

I know that for me, this app would make me extremely stressed at the imminent approaching of my wedding date. Since I can remember, I have always been a planner who follows the rules and wants everything to run smoothly when it comes to event planning and my life. The fact that my life could soon be dictated by the bell curve of my friends’ ages and marriage dates and not from my own doing made me completely averse to even trying out the application. There is that saying that an apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, but I like to have as much control over the events in my life as possible in this fated world.

However, this application is not 100% positively perfect at determining your marriage date, because no algorithm can ever predict human decisions, emotions, or situations outside the experiment. Additionally, the app has a flaw in that it cannot distinguish those friends who are in relationships but do not disclose their relationships on social media. This skew in the data can make your “marriage date” arbitrarily less or more time away, leading to an incorrect perception of your own life stage and direction. I think that this application shows that technology is fantastic to have, but can often lead to causing unnecessary stress and emotional discomfort in the people who use it. Social media has influenced everyone’s opinions on major life choices and changes, like marriage, and has caused those who are not in relationships to envy their friends and loved ones who are partaking in those events publically. I think that this application should not be given credit for its ability to alter someone’s life choices and as a source of excitement about a wedding. Social media should not be involved in these types of personal events, and everyone on social media sites should take care of their heart and emotions when it comes to robotic apps and their affect on them. Social media is becoming far too intrusive and personal for my liking, and this app is just one example of how it can affect people more than expected.

Read more about the app and try it for yourself from TIME Tech!


Preparing for My First Real Valentine’s Day

In my adult life so far I have had a few boyfriends, but have never once gotten to celebrate Valentine’s day with any of them. I’ve even been with my current boyfriend for over a year and a half, yet haven’t gotten the chance to spend V-day with him!

So, admittedly, I’m not sure what to expect on this love filled Friday, now only 4 days away. What I know for sure is that my boyfriend Michael and I are going to drive to Temecula and have a great lunch at a winery and end the day with some gambling at Pechanga casino.


I’m extremely excited about what our day has planned in terms of events, but what I’m more unsure of is how the emotions I feel will affect the day. This is after all my first Valentines day, and I am already mentally preparing myself for an outpouring of love and happy emotions. There will also be a surprise, undoubtedly something that will embarrass me even though my boyfriend has convinced me otherwise, since I turn into a beet as soon as a lot of attention is focused on me.

What I am most nervous about is what I will give to my boyfriend as a valentines gift. I realize that the true meaning behind the holiday is sharing love with those you are close with and not about just giving chocolates or roses that will be gone in a week or so. To me, I see Valentine’s day as a day that you should spend with any type of loved one, be it your signifiant other, family members, friends or pets. I am excited just to be able to be in the same part of the country as my boyfriend this Valentine’s day (he scurried off to Las Vegas for a fraternity conference last Valentine’s day, but I haven’t quite let him live it down just yet!) A gift is always appreciated, I realize, but I want to make sure it is meaningful, not just extravagant or expensive and used to “buy” feelings of love and happiness.

Make sure to keep an eye out for a blog post this weekend detailing everything I do during my Valentine’s day with my boyfriend and all of the fun adventures we get up to! I can’t wait to see how this holiday is supposed to be celebrated and I get to have a wonderful private day full of fun, love, romance, and excitement (and hopefully even some luck at the casinos!) And to all of my wonderful viewers out there, you are all my Valentines for coming by my page and showing me some love and support! Love you all!

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I’ll Be There for You


Friends. At every point in your life, you’re more than likely someone’s best friend or confidante. Friendships are relationships that help you grow as a person and develop into your own unique personality and help to guide your way in life. In my opinion, my best friends have taught me so much in just twenty-one years. In short, here are the three most important things my best friends have taught me thus far in my life.

1. Talk about your problems, don’t internalize them.

All too often, people encounter personal problems and struggles in their lives but don’t share their feelings about them to their closest friends. I have been victim of this in the past, but over the last few years I have found that sharing with confidantes can help solve problems and give me an outlet to vent emotions and look at situations with fresh perspectives. Internalizing problems can only breed more emotional trauma and lamenting without any chance of solving the issues or problems at hand.

2. Being different is okay.

People always find comfort in people who are just like them and group together in a type of herd mentality for social comfort and confidence. However, I have realized that a lot of my best friends have been different types of people than I am. I think that this is a fantastic quality in a best friend, because they offer spontaneity, different perspectives and most importantly – fun! Almost all of my most interesting stories have come from doing some wild thing with my best friend Molly that was completely out of my comfort zone! While I can’t argue that my friends are 100% different to me in any specific way, I think that surrounding yourself with close friends from different backgrounds creates a safe space for people to share different ideas, beliefs and values without fearing their friends will cut off their relationship or judge them negatively.

3. Best friends help you grow.

Since joining my sorority three years ago, I have met many amazing friends through that organization. Not only did these women become my friends, but they rallied around me in support of anything I set my mind to succeeding in. Whenever I am having difficulty with carving out my life path after college, with relationships within my sorority or school, or with my personal life, my sisters are always there to support me and help me blossom into a better person than I was when I first joined. I feel confident knowing I have 100 women to fall back on if something doesn’t go as planned or to celebrate with if I get a job offer or succeed in an area of my life I was worried about.

As long as I have my friends to keep me sane, support me and be there for me at all times, life is good. To all of my amazing friends and bloggers out there: I’ll be there for you!


Does the Bachelor Romanticize Love?

The Bachelor(ette) have been aired on tv for years. These dating shows are the epitome of every man and woman’s dream: being surrounded by two dozen sexy singles who are vying for his or her attention and being able to “date” all of them at the same time! However, does the Bachelor skew society’s view on how love should develop?

I enjoy my real life relationship and being able to spend quality time with my boyfriend going out to eat at the restaurant down the street, going on random road trips, and even just enjoying a good TV show or two on the couch. But while watching the bachelor, I am in awe of the extravagance of each of the group and one on one dates each episode shows. To be honest, I think that it’s extremely difficult for women or men going through this experience to truly live a normal life with a normal relationship after the cameras stop rolling. Let’s be honest, how can you keep up your dating speed after visiting different countries, taking rides in $100,000 amphibious vehicles, or in a self-made Californian winter wonderland!!

I can appreciate my relationship so much more from watching the Bachelor. Now I see my relationship will help me grow as a person and part of something greater than myself to enrich my boyfriend’s life. To me, fabulous dates and whirlwind trips don’t sound exciting to me, but rather the experiences with my partner that I would have there.

I definitely think that dating shows romanticize love. It’s what they are designed to do! While they are “reality” shows, the fact that they say you can build a successful relationship over a three month period with another 20 people fighting to beat you to the proposal is a bit outrageous. I am perfectly happy in my relationship, and don’t need any tv cameras, million dollar trips or competitions to help me find my perfect match.

To Have and to Hold


“I do.”

For most all of us, those two little words are loaded with emotions, dreams, and even stress and anxiety.

As a 21 year old, I am beginning to enter the age bracket where many of my friends of both genders are getting engaged. As my social media news feeds are flooded with engagement photo albums, sappy statuses about eternal love and bible versus relating to love and marriage, I can’t escape the fact that I could become a part of that group of people in a few short years.

This brings up the issue of love and marriage and the divorce rate the US is maintaining these days. While it is valid for people to marry for love and the pursuit of staying with your soulmate for the rest of your lives, but many people forget the important things associated with marriage that could have a damaging effect on your life should you divorce. Marriage in my sense of the word is really a coming together of finances and living arrangements in which two people in love wish to mix and provide for one another. Don’t get me wrong, love is an integral part of the success of a marriage, but don’t let finances go to the wayside.

I hope to get married before I am thirty. So this leaves me with around nine more years to secure my finances, employment and career goals, social life and livelihood independent to that of my significant other. While I know this is a lot to do in nine years, I realize that if anything were to happen, I do not want to rely solely on one person in this world and do not take marriage lightly. If I want a family, a dog, a big house and fancy cars, I need to be able to afford those things, and shouldn’t dive into marriage immaturely.

However, like many women my age, am constantly finding myself pinning wedding images to my Pinterest account and dreaming of my ideal wedding location and dress (not to mention the ideal man, but I’ve been hanging on to him for almost 2 years!) With age I know I will be able to have everything I need and desire in life if I strive to support myself and my individual needs before attending to another person. I want my wedding to be the most beautiful culmination of my strongest and most invigorating relationship.

I strive to be happy in my life and with my own happiness I hope to shine light into someone else’s life and enrich their life with my experiences and opinions and create an amazing family.

So, with the trials, tribulations, and financial stresses that can come with marriage, do I want to delve into it at all?

I do.