Here Comes the App? Wedding Predicting App Gets Personal

This evening I came across an article on TotalSororityMove.com that was titled “New App That Will Predict the EXACT Date You’ll Get Married.” Shocked at the likelihood an app made with algorithms could even remotely predict the age you will get married to one and only love of your life, I clicked on the link and gave the article a read. What I found was an article about how upset a post-grad became after realizing that she had theoretically “1 year, 3 months and 36 days” until the day she should expect to get married. This fact can cause anyone to become increasingly stressed or anxious about the direction their life is taking and become a cause for unnecessary back life planning and what if?’s to arise.

An Example Marriage Graph

An Example Marriage Graph

Now that Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, this app will most likely increase in traffic based on the fact that if you are not celebrating the holiday with significant others, you are most likely envious of others or are overwhelmingly lonely and yearning for commitment. By measuring the median marriage age of your Facebook friends, the app can determine a probable marriage date for you based on your personal social circles. For some, this may be an exciting fact because they could be already in a relationship with their hopeful soulmate and were planning on marrying them anyway. But for those single individuals who are hoping their turn will come soon, this fact will give them an exact end date to when their life will catch up to those of their friends who have already been posting photos of engagements, weddings, and babies.

I know that for me, this app would make me extremely stressed at the imminent approaching of my wedding date. Since I can remember, I have always been a planner who follows the rules and wants everything to run smoothly when it comes to event planning and my life. The fact that my life could soon be dictated by the bell curve of my friends’ ages and marriage dates and not from my own doing made me completely averse to even trying out the application. There is that saying that an apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, but I like to have as much control over the events in my life as possible in this fated world.

However, this application is not 100% positively perfect at determining your marriage date, because no algorithm can ever predict human decisions, emotions, or situations outside the experiment. Additionally, the app has a flaw in that it cannot distinguish those friends who are in relationships but do not disclose their relationships on social media. This skew in the data can make your “marriage date” arbitrarily less or more time away, leading to an incorrect perception of your own life stage and direction. I think that this application shows that technology is fantastic to have, but can often lead to causing unnecessary stress and emotional discomfort in the people who use it. Social media has influenced everyone’s opinions on major life choices and changes, like marriage, and has caused those who are not in relationships to envy their friends and loved ones who are partaking in those events publically. I think that this application should not be given credit for its ability to alter someone’s life choices and as a source of excitement about a wedding. Social media should not be involved in these types of personal events, and everyone on social media sites should take care of their heart and emotions when it comes to robotic apps and their affect on them. Social media is becoming far too intrusive and personal for my liking, and this app is just one example of how it can affect people more than expected.

Read more about the app and try it for yourself from TIME Tech!

If Life had a Refresh Button

When I was in my first year and a half of college, I was one of a tight-knit group of Biology and science majors at my university. I had originally decided that to make myself more competitive in the biomedical business field after college, that majoring in science would set me apart while minoring in Business Administration to gain basic business skills. However, this decision greatly affected my life and GPA over that time period until I changed my major to Business Administration. I wish I could have made a more insightful decision prior to starting school so that I could have possibly saved my GPA before I even started.

What I did not realize about being a Biological Sciences major in college was that it was difficult – extremely difficult – to obtain even a mediocre grade in entry level classes. I thought to myself that it can’t possibly be THIS much more difficult than my high school International Baccalaureate biology and chemistry classes were, and I did well in those! However, after my first semester of science courses and getting a less than acceptable GPA for my standards, I realized why these classes were so difficult – they acted as a way to weed out the “weak” students that apparently couldn’t make it through medical school if they didn’t get an A or A- in their classes. Being a science major actually caused me to compete in a manufactured “survival of the fittest” and my individual species was becoming extinct in the science world.

Reading Dad's Biomedical Engineering Textbooks!

Reading Dad’s Biomedical Engineering Textbooks!

I used to love studying science and thought this would continue into my college studies seamlessly. When this ended up not being the case, I lost interest in my courses and generally lost interest in studying enough to make the grade because I simply wasn’t motivated anymore. Sure I liked science, but compared to all of these ultra-competitive, intense medical school hopefuls, I wasn’t fitting in with the group. During my second semester of sophomore year, I had finally had enough and realized that my time as an outsider in the science realm needed to come to an end, and I changed my major to Business Administration with a minor in Human Biology to save credits.

If life had a reset button, I would have pressed it in a heartbeat to go back to the start of my freshman year. I would have decided much earlier on that I was made to be a Business major (my GPA in Business has never dived under a 3.8 since changing my major), and not cut out from the same mold every medical student is. Had I changed my major when I should have, I would have been ale to enjoy my first few semesters at school a lot more and been more social. I definitely felt the hinderance science had on my social life, because no matter how much I had studied, whenever I had free time science was always on my mind.

Studying Gen. Chem on Halloween!

Studying Gen. Chem on Halloween!

But if I hadn’t decided to change my major from the start of freshman year, I wish that I would have concentrated harder on the classes I was taking. Even though I did not like the major, I should have still understood that getting good grades matters a lot more in your life after college – especially for getting a job. I realize now that digging myself out of the hole that I fell into from science class overload is extremely difficult and took me over a few semesters to even get up to a GPA that my dad thought was acceptable to have for what I am concentrating in as an undergrad. Also, majoring in a difficult subject does not always destroy your interest in it if you are passionate, but it showed me the harsh reality that I was not as interested in the sciences as I thought and it should not be my primary focus as a college student.

Changing my major earlier on would have had a very positive effect on my college life and definitely would have decreased the unnecessary stress I have had to deal with. Not changing my major early on may have prevented me from being as close with my sorority sisters from the get-go and also from being as involved in my sorority as I have been since becoming a Business major. Minoring in biology has again increased my interest in the sciences and has given me the chance to appreciate science while not being overwhelmed by the course load or the amount of tenuous labs I had to endure each week. It is a good break from business classes and keeps me curious about the medical world while allowing me to have some more free time and ability to become involved in extra-curricular things. If I had a refresh button, I would have changed this part of my life in a heartbeat and would have been excited to see all of the options it could have opened up! But until that happens, I am glad that I finally made a change for myself that benefitted my life and still takes me in the direction that I want to go in.